Busy day
Fran and i spent the afternoon on a collage for her nature badge. Its all felt mosaic and the picture is of a woodland scene. We are going to put various animals coming out of hibernation or whatever on to it. So far we have a space for a badger, a fox and his vixen, a squirrel, a bird, rabbits and some insects. We’ve got the Pooh mags ot read up on animals and various websites and other leaflets to look at - both of us really enjoyed it today :~)
What’s been going on the last few days….
Not really felt much like blogging since Thursday so here is a quick round up. Colourstrings on Thursday morning, which all the girls are loving. Scruff and Moo are particulalry keen on the rhythm stuff and Fran is really enjoying getting to do sing alongs. There is an NCT toddler group after it we might try out - the little ones can play and its a good opportunity for Fran and i to sit and read or whatever, though i daresay she will play too.
After that we went off to meet the midwife - she was nice, is going to come to me in future to save dragging the kids about, was fine about the approach to the birth i have decided to take and accepted i didn’t want to be weighed.
Then it was the big dx meeting although before that Fran and i did some stamps, some reading, some writing and some maths - lol - quick work!
Fran went to Rainbows that evening and was highly delighted her little HE’d friend joined - they came out “hiding” their mothers day gifts they had made.
Friday we were all pooped and weary so called a day of rest! We watched films together, played games, read loads of books, made fairy cakes, dressed up and generally had a lovely time. i felt really good for it and so did the girls - we really needed some chill time. Aunty Kate brought over biscuits and all was lovely.
Saturday - skating first and the girls were great - Moo is really getting the hang of backwards! Fran was apparently on speed and a bit haphazard but had fun. Then we came home and they all played together ALL day while Max and I chilled and prepared for moving in our minds! (EEEP!)
Yesterday - all got up early, played our formula one team games (great day to have picked Jensen Button for my team! Hurrah!!!) Fran is streaking away as her permanent driver for the year is M. Schuey!!!! Hmmmmm….. Then we all went out and as you can see had a great time.
Fran and i have big plans for today so i am off to do chores now so its all done for our time laters on.
What do you do when your region is hit by 70mph gales???
You go to Sunny Hunny!!!!
With thanks to Chris who does such excellent photos that i have been thinking much harder about composing mine and am quite pleased with these!!!!
I’m curious…
I’m aware that the one bit of intelligence a bully possesses is to pick a likely victim… but what kind of bully exactly does it take to not spot that their victim is less than interested, 2 years AFTER they stopped being interested????!!!! Even by the generally poor standards of cyber-trolling.. that’s piss poor intelligence really.
I so don’t care you know…. i LAUGH at every single one of them - I’m NEVER going to reply and they never do anything other than completely stiffen my resolve that if you disagree with me, I MUST be right.
Get over it.
Semantic Pragmatic Disorder Parents’ Page
This is a useful list, not least because i am doing a lot of this anyway and that makes me feel good!
Semantic Pragmatic Disorder
If anyone who knows Moo fairly well can be bothered to read their way through this, i would be intrigued to know what thay think. It was in fact the very first thing that made sense when i first was worrying about Moo and seems to fit quite well with some of those “tests” - i’m wondering if its either the “real truth” or the thing that goes along with her being AS, since it seems all AS kids seem to have “second string to their bow” as it were.
Is it just me…
… or had Return to Neverland got more than its fair share of Disney “mummy-attack” pathos???
I can’t watch it for more than two minutes without roaring :~/
Well its official
Meeting went well - very positive and helpful. The dx was a forgone conclusion really but the whole team agreed she definitely has Aspergers. Interesting the EPs report was the only report of an absent assessor that was not discussed… somehow i don’t think he is considered very valid!
The slightly expanded version of Wednesday
Moo woke up at 5.30 with something on her mind - i have no idea what but she lay next to me twiddling and fretting. I ended up waking myself up to chat to try and divert her. First of all we went through all the family relationships, in a very orderly way and she knew that Granny and Grampty were my mummy and daddy. Then she said “But who is Daddy’s mummy????” I explained that she was dead but that seemed to go over her head although she obviously accepted she wasn’t about. I found it really interesting - Fran was a bit older when this occurred to her but her first thought was for Max and whether it was upsetting for him. She was very concerned about whther he had cried, whether he had said goodbye to her etc etc - Moo seemed immune to any empathy, she had just worked out that someone was missing. Having said that Grandad and Auntie L are familiar people to her so she had obviously picked up that Auntie L is NOT Daddys mummy, so i was quite pleased that a certain amount of “emotional cueing” as it were had gone in. Its funny really - when we expalined it all to Fran we felt it needed careful handling and were very concerned with how she would cope with it (Fran cries at Disneys films and she’s not even grown up!!!) but with Moo i knew i could just tell her and it wouldn’t affect her emotionally. Lol.
We then started to talk about the baby (Fran WANTS a boy, Moo wants a girl) and suddenly Moo said “How will the baby get out? Will it jump out of your mouth?” I like that, logical thinking! When i gave her the possible real options she curled up in a ball and made sick noises! Its funny really, by the time Fran was 4, Scruff was here and Fran was very clued up about those things but a combination of circumstance and Moo’s much more babylike, unquestionning outlook has meant its not really been talked about with her.
Skating was good - there was an adult male skater practising jumps and Scruff was giving him a chorus of rousing cheers. The girls did good and didn’t grumble that they didn’t get sweets after - when it was once a week it was fine as a treat but now we go 2-3 times a week we can neither afford it nor will i allow the habit to develop. Its good for Moo to accept that sometimes we do and sometime we don’t, partly because of her routine obsessions and partly because she is showing all the signs of being like me - she asks for sweets and snack food constantly and will just go on and on - she also loves chocolate spread out of the jar and i caught her doing “on for me, one for my sandwich” this week when she was making her lunch - cheeky wench! At the moment she is still slim although chunkier than the others and i think we need to try and instill a certain amounty of natural restraint into all our lives. I know very well that i don’t know when to stop with sweet things sometimes.
Unfortunately Moo then went into permanent meltdown - we did a while at the soft play area but because they were in skating clothes she couldn’t hack it and wailed for the rest of the morning. She fell asleep in the taxi and was subdued and twiddly at nursery.
I picked her up and had a long chat about the pre dx report her LSA had done - it basically is very good and describes her as able but rigid, happy but fairly isolated and needing a lot of support to do things that she finds frightening. She is apparently barely integrating there unless she has a staff member with her but when she has she tries valiantly to join in. ((As an aside, this is clearly not the Moo i know in the HE world who seems to integrate just fine on her own terms and when she feels safe so i don’t think its going to be much of an argument for school!!!)) On the other hand i DO feel that this year so far has moved her on in lots of ways and made all our lives happier and i know that i don’t feel that she has suffered for going, so i guess its been a good thing over all. Then i spoke to the SENCO who asked if i still wanted her place there again next year - i said yes. She said it was fine but added “Although i don’t think that Moo would get a statement i do think she would get a years worth of settling in hours (of support) in reception if you wanted them” - but i don’t. I firmly feel we are an HEing family who use Early Years provision because i feel broadly comfortable with how it works. I’m going through this to get Moo as much as i can for the next 18 months, not to prepared her for school or get anything for when she goes into school.
So - we shall see how this afternoons meeting goes.
The Knex has gone down really well, although of course we now have 3 sets of it and Moo can’t mix them up to do bigger projects because it has to stay in its rightful set… sigh…. Fran played with her very small set all evening which i was pleased about.
More rushing…
Skating by nine, soft play area for 90 minutes, home for MORE Zoombinis, rush of to nursery to chat with LSA ready for tomorrows potentially dx meeting, pop to toy shop, spend birthday money on kids knex, collapse in small dribbling heap….. need to get that lunch time nap worked into my daily routine!
Its a good job i have photos of yesterday…
Because NOTHING happened today! Lol! Well, that not true, Fran battled it out for several hours on Zoombinis and got lots better. I hung over her shoulder for some of it (biting my tongue and hearing John Holt on leading questions laughing in my ear!) and i helped her a bit with the ones she found hard, namely the Fleens in the tree and the wall. By the end of the time she was up to the second level on all but the last section, doing the wall with absolute precision and had developed some strategies for the Fleens. All the rest she could do, up to the bubbles which she can’t do, mainly because she likes watching them get sucked away!!!!
I find it SO hard to be patient over this - i just ache to “do it” for her - so its been a good day all in all, i felt like we achieved something.
Scruff got a hair cut and now looks incredibly cute - must take a pic tomorrow - i did good i have to admit!
Here is the bulla which we got from here
This is it just made with our precious gems (fish tank plastic stones - you see, i KNEW buying those to hoard was a good idea!!!) and here is it being worn along with her brooch.
I did an awesome amount of housework today - scary really….. and now i have the joy of beginning to pack!!!!!
Woo hoo!
All things being equal it looks like we have a new house and we should be in fairly early April!!!! Its got a fair bit of work to be done on it to get it ready, so it should be fairly nice when we get there, its big (well not as big as our previous to this one house but poss a bit bigger than our first rented one), its just down the road!!! And the rent up is only an extra £50 so for the first time in our lives we ought to be comfortably off - fingers crossed it all goes okay from here!
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The Cast & Crew
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Fran 10 |
Maddy 8
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Amelie 6
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Josie 3
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