An achievement of mind over things that don’t matter.

Of all the things I could get angry about, Amelie’s beam cartwheel is the thing that I still can’t really let go of. I am still so cross that temporarily losing a gym move, when she was only just 8, led to a bout of what I still think was just bullying and meant she developed a massive block in her head about it. I made such a mistake putting her into A squad just then; too many things clouded my judgement, pride not least and grief and all sorts of other things. I should never have put her into the hands of someone who didn’t know her or care enough about what she had just been through at that moment in her life. It was a big mistake, not that it excuses making an 8 year old do a move 100 times in a row without any break or encouragement.

The result of that was she lost that move for 2 years and because her previous coaches work on a ‘nail it before you move on’ premise (fair enough) she didn’t get to do anything new and really lost heart. I blame her loss of interest in gym and her drive to achieve on that whole episode and I take plenty of responsibility for it because I should have dealt with the whole thing differently. Somehow, though I tried, I failed to be her advocate adequately.

However.

We moved to a new gymnastics club in Peterborough and the new coach thinks it’s okay to move on if a move is causing head space issues. This is much closer to our educational philosophy; we never labour the point here. If something is difficult, the worst thing I think you can do is battle through it, causing mental blocks and angst. We just leave it and move on. So far, in 10 years of home educating 4 girls, it has never failed me. It’s a real relief to be at a gym where the same strategy is used. I know it wouldn’t work for every kid, but it works for Amelie. In the space of 2 months she has been able to move on to new beam moves without worrying about that cartwheel, learn new tumble preps ever though she is still anxious about shoulder strength and has cracked vaulting which had been a huge stumbling block for so long. I daresay these things will still come and go, but no matter; she’s not even noticed all the stealth work they’ve been doing on her shoulder and elbow strength and she hasn’t done any beam cartwheels at all because she has been working on beam walkovers.

So you can imagine her surprise last night when she suddenly got asked to do a beam cartwheel and this happened.


And it didn’t just happen once, it happened repeatedly. When I turned up an hour later, she did 3 in a row for me and stuck all of them.

I call that a result.

  6 comments for “An achievement of mind over things that don’t matter.

  1. November 6, 2012 at 10:51 am

    thats great, well done! and I’m so pleased you have found a happier gym xx

    • November 6, 2012 at 11:00 am

      The other one gets great results, I can’t fault them for how they turn out high level gymnasts and the coaches that had Fran in particular took great care of her when we needed them to. But none of my girls ever came into their elite, or anywhere close and clearly they had more in them than that environment could draw out. It happens in elite gyms.I’m happier to have them somewhere where the top level is not yet so high but the coaching has time to be more responsive to their needs and abilities.

  2. Elaine
    November 6, 2012 at 3:07 pm

    Wow that’s fab – great to hear that she is enjoying it all again

  3. November 6, 2012 at 8:32 pm

    That’s brilliant, well done Amelie:)

  4. November 7, 2012 at 7:19 am

    She’s incredible – not least because she cracked the move but that she had the tenacity to keep going and try it again. That’s more than a lot of kids I know.

  5. November 7, 2012 at 8:27 pm

    Such a nice ending to that story!

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