Comments on: You may say i am mentally ill. I couldn’t possibly comment.

By: sally

sally — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:14:40 +0000

http://sallyll1000.wordpress.com/2004/10/07/did-you-see-the-news-prof-david-southall-our-daughters-paediatrician/

By: sally

sally — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:14:19 +0000

spamming you now, unintentionally. This may be better than the second one.

By: sally

sally — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:11:30 +0000

In more detail: http://sallyll1000.wordpress.com/2007/10/21/why-peak-practice-sent-shivers-through-my-spine-and-those-old-programmes-with-starchy-matrons-and-subservient-patients-calling-the-doctor-doctor-and-apologising-with-their-full-body-language-for/

By: sally

sally — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:08:25 +0000

Hi Maddy,
I have a parallel experience I blogged about in response to Paula Rothermel’s memorandum. see here http://salamanda.wordpress.com/2009/11/05/evidence-to-the-select-committe-published/

((()))
Sally

By: merry

merry — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 21:07:21 +0000

Dear Sarah, i am really sorry that your career is that hard on you. As one of my very closest friends is a hospital consultant dealing with the lives of women and babies every day of her life, i can only sympathise with you as i do with her. But i presume that you, like her, choose not to leave it behind – i could never do her job because it would break me – but she does and for all it sometimes seems to break her too, she goes back and back because the job she loves and is good at and makes a difference doing, means so much to her.

When i was running the business full time as well as HEing, i frequently came to bits trying to juggle everything – it just seemed impossible. So i had to stop – and was lucky to be able to do so but before i knew that was going to work out, i had decided to shut down the thing i had worked so hard on because it was beyond me.

Parenting is different – i am bitterly, bitterly afraid that this thing i do which i love and which i invest my heart and soul in, every day and minute of my life without break or respite, whether my children are nice to me and appreciate me or not, might get taken away from me – purely because people fear my choice to try and do it well, full time and without interference. This is my career now and it is my right, my duty and my responsibility to do it and do it well and i ask for nothing in return. But what i get is smears of abuse, criticism and a suggestion i need to be inspected and moderated for wanting to do it and that there is something intrinsically odd with me for wanting it to be as it is.

By: Loubeeloo

Loubeeloo — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 20:51:58 +0000

welcome to our world sarah … trust me, we understand exactly how it is not to be understood or empathized with from each of our individual perspectives…
“never seem to get a break from terrible situations and horrible decisions from start to finish”.. yep that sounds pretty much like what we are going through as HEers atm… thing is it’s more than a job/career/vocation to us…. it is our whole lives & those of our kids at stake when a ‘professional’ whoat the end of a hard days work has been left feeling that their patients “seem determined (unintentionally obviously) to do their utmost to exhaust (them) emotionally as well as physically and (that) there are never enough hours in the day or doctors available to take off the pressure”… is the person about to make a value judgement on YOU, YOUR CHILDREN & YOUR LIFE which could have far reaching & potentially disastrous effects.
So i do not think merry, or any of us are ‘taking it personally or making personal comments in return’… but merely juxtaposing the issues you mention to highlight how important it is that the fear of “criticism and litigation” not to mention ‘differential diagnosis’ based upon fear & prejudice are not at the fore of the minds/actions of ANY of the health professionals that a parent comes to & bravely asks for help.