Comments on: Have the courage of your convictions.

By: SallyM

SallyM — Sat, 01 Oct 2005 17:22:44 +0000

FWIW K was like this with nursery (although he adores Reception Hes coming out everyday telling me what a fantastic time he had and how he loves it - big shock I can tell you) He liked going but he never actually wanted to go. For him it turned out it was “too noisy” which I found astounding since he is the noisiest of the lot! However in observation we think its because he can’t hear so well when theres background noise and so he found that aspect hard which is why he liked going, because he liked all the stuff they did, but didn’t like actually going because he couldn’t hear. Could there be a “something” thats putting Amelie off that you haven’t clicked on yet? Toilets, the chairs, anything! Although I think Dimitra has a good plan

By: merry

merry — Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:18:06 +0000

Do you know what Dimitra, i think you’ve hit the nail on the head. That is exactly what i’m going to do!

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!

By: Dimitra

Dimitra — Thu, 29 Sep 2005 22:02:13 +0000

I don’t know if I may butt in (I feel a bit too young for it) but I agree with whoever says Amelie can sense your ambivalence over nursery and is acting out. I can remember myself at that age pretty clearly and I remember that, in a way, I knew exactly what everyone was feeling - and from watching my younger cousins (I have eight of them) I am pretty convinced all children are more or less like that. On the other hand, I also think you’re right thinking she wants to see how much she is in control of it (in a good way - though of course you can’t have her changing her mind every day for the rest of the year.) I suggest you tell her, in a matter-of-fact way, that you think going is good for her, but staying at home is also good; and that if she has decided not to go you are prepared to forget all about it, then act like you have… I suspect the ‘big girl’ thing might kick in then, or she might miss the fun she could have, and she will want to go.

By: Katy

Katy — Thu, 29 Sep 2005 21:17:05 +0000

Hoping I can say what I mean here and not have it all come out wrong….

All of your girls are very different Merry, Fran is so terribly grown up (in a good way!) and I am guessing that by the age she was at nursery she was a little used to you being away from her with her stays in hospital.

Maddy is, well, Maddy is Maddy! I vaguely remember you posting about her first day that she just sailed in there in her matter of fact way and waved you off.

Ammi is perhaps a little quieter than your “big girls” (looking in as an outsider when we’ve seen you), she is a little more like Becca in that she is confident on her own turf, with her own friends etc but maybe not so if she has to deal with both a new setting and new people at once.

The following round and being listless is horribly familiar to me, it was Becca all over every time she came home from nursery and the day after. I’m trying not to sound too much “oh nursery is a terrible place” here, I know I’m biased against it and don’t want to colour things but if she isn’t too happy maybe she needs a bit longer before she is “big enough”?

By: Nic

Nic — Thu, 29 Sep 2005 17:44:36 +0000

I’ve thought and considered it for Tarly and decided that nursery is simply not relevant for us and holds no benefit so she won’t be going. So for me, given the route you intend following anyway I would say stop now and don’t try again.

You may find that she suddenly decides that she does want to go and I understand that may have tricky implications to deal with but then this can’t be pleasant for any of you either so I would bite the bullet and decide it is not right, right now.

But that is just me, so feel free to ignore it